An Anxiety Treatment Plan: An Anxiety Treatment Plan: Generalized Anxiety & The Fear of Flying

Episode 5 – The Mystical Investigator: An Anxiety Treatment Plan: Generalized Anxiety & The Fear of Flying 

In this episode of The Mystical Investigator, we talk about six weeks of client sessions that led to overcoming fear of flying.

Transcript

Welcome to The Mystical Investigator. This is your host Martita Robinson. I'm so glad you're here today today. We're going to dive into a case study of a client of mine and I want to share her anxiety treatment plan so that you can get an idea of what you need to practice and the things that you need to do to actually move through healing your own anxiety.

So just a quick background on Megan now, I did change her name There are a few details that are changed, but she gave me permission to share her story I always get permission before I share stories so be cognizant of that, and names are always changed for privacy, but Megan has two girls age five and seven. She's married. She's been married for the last 10 years and she works in finance.  She's basically the head of a department. I don't know the details of that, but she heads a department within her company.  So when Megan came to my program, she signed up because she wanted to get rid of her fear of flying. 

She had a flight coming up in the next. Six weeks, and she really didn't want to do the same thing that she'd been doing for the last eight years of flying She rarely flew she flew when she absolutely had to and one of the things she talked about was how it was stopping her and her family from Doing things her fear of flying Made it so that she was not able to take her family on trips or to do things with her husband When she wanted to, because of this fear of flying, Megan not only had the fear of flying, but she had generalized anxiety disorder.

And this was an issue for her that she really wanted to shift out of. So even though we worked on her. Fear of flying and that was a big topic. What we were really working on was her generalized anxiety disorder she had generalized anxiety disorder for most of her life. She was in her 30s and She was raised by a mom who had severe anxiety her mother never trusted the world and planted these ideas of lack of safety in the world and that She couldn't trust people.

So she was always worried about her kids. And this worry went into Megan and her sisters, and she started to really become anxious growing up because she adopted those fears.   Her mom didn't know how to deal with her anxiety and the coping mechanisms that her mother had which were kind of Don't do this.

Don't do that. Stay away from this. Stay away from that. Don't trust people, you know, etc, etc That's how Megan learned how to cope with her own anxiety  So her anxiety found a way to funnel into flying She had a deep-rooted fear of getting in a plane You And trusting the pilot, right? So we worked on that for six weeks going into her assessment and really doing a good deep background of what was going on with her and unearthing the elements that kept anxiety going for her.

Her problem was that she did not trust herself. She didn't trust life.  She was constantly in her mind. She was constantly thinking about worst possible scenarios and how she could protect herself from those worst possible scenarios. She was always living in go. She was never really relaxing into herself because she didn't trust herself.

She didn't relax into herself and was unable to actually trust that all would be well.  You know, when we're settled into self and we allow ourselves to just be within the sacred self that we are, that presence, that peaceful. The energy that comes from the one, the bigger, the greater source we're calm, we're peaceful.

We trust life because we move in that energy and that energy is an energy of knowing and an energy of all is perfect just here right now as it is.  And because she grew up with a mom who taught her.  That life was not safe, that life did not have asafety mechanism in it, or that she was supported in all that she did. She did not have, that foundation, she came from a lack of trust. A worry and so she was really connected to her mind because when we have anxiety We really are always grasping at control Anxiety likes to make it seem like control is how to fix things or how to make us feel better  Before we learn how to actually heal our anxiety And move ourself away from that control,  you know, it makes us feel like we're not Like control is how to feel better, but that's really not it.

There's no control when we're in the mind, all we're doing is thinking all the time. And in her case, she's just like forward-thinking about the worst possible scenarios and how she can avoid them.  So throughout her life, she's constantly on the go, constantly in her mind, taking action, moving away from presence, moving away from self.stillness because stillness is trust. Stillness is relaxing into trust stillness and being peaceful is a feeling of flow and moving with life rather than trying to control life.  So when we got together to talk about, you know, her fear of flying and the fear of flying coming from this control, like don't get on the plane because you're not in control of the plane and the worst possible scenario can happen.

Right. And she had generalized anxiety disorder. So it wasn't just flying for her. It was pretty much anything that posed a Danger in some way. So when we got together and we started working together, the first thing that I did, and this is the same thing that I do with every client is we talk about what are the things that created this.

So for her, it was like her mom, it was her family background. It was growing up without the feeling of trust. And then we moved on to working on her goals and what is it that she really wants out of her life. What does she want to feel? Feel in her life. What is it? You know, yes, you want to be able to fly.

And for her, her goal was I just want to get on a plane. I want to take a flight. I want to take my family on flights without having to, you know, number one, be drugged and sleeping the whole time. Or number two you know, even though from the beginning of months ahead of time, worrying, completely worrying and thinking nothing about this catastrophe that could possibly happen.

She'd sit for months and think about this stuff about the worst possible scenario with this flight. She knew she had to take this flight. This is something that she could not avoid and taking this flight was important to her.  So when we talked about this flight and what really were the issues when it came to this flight was her lack of trust in life,  her lack of trust in

At the moment you have to be able to bring in trust and a knowing that all is okay and all is well. And when you can really bring that in life changes for you. So that was what we really started to work on was moving out of the energy of fear and instead moving into the energy of safety. 

So we created her goal set, which was feeling safe, right? So that she could get on the plane with no problem. She could take the flight with no problem and she could come back with no problem.  So we had six weeks of work to do this and The first thing that I have my clients do is to create a new story and avatar So this would look like you creating this  New life on paper for yourself.

You tell yourself. What is it that I want out of my life? What is it that I want to feel and then create a story around that so that this new person that I have? Listed in this story becomes real to you and you can kind of like Settle into that new you because  Working out of anxiety is work.

It's it's truly it's work It's a consistent effort to shift out of your mind And into your body and to shift out of emotion and into flow, right? So there has to be a deeper motivation to actually accomplish this  Creating your story, creating your avatar, your new avatar is how you get settled into that new life that you're building.

So we created that, we created the story and then we moved on from there. Of course, one of the first things that we go over is energy healing techniques. I helped her create some healing techniques, but the first and most important energy-healing technique was meditation.  We had 12 sessions together and every session we practiced meditation.  , she practiced meditation on her own. Most days. And we also talked about segmenting.  I will get deeper into segmenting later on in another podcast episode. That's just one of the things that, she started implementing to bring in presence in her life and trust because trust is nothing more than just letting go of control. You know, it's a trust fall. As you see those trust falls with groups.  Your trust falls into life and you just kind of let go of the hold. You understand that you're not in control.

The most control that you have with anything is how you feel.  She may not be able to control the pilot, but she can control how she feels while she's on the plane.  So we practice different, exercises a lot of people go towards exposure therapy and,  really exposure therapy doesn't even have to be done. I mean, yes, it's beneficial, but the thing that you really need to do instead of Actually, going to the airport, and going on videos and practicing this, no, what you really need to do is you need to practice getting into the feeling that you really want to have, not the actual plane, but the feeling is what you want to focus on for, for her.

It was trust and safety. And so throughout the six weeks of working together, those are some of the things that we really did together different exercises to get her to trust life and to let go. Of the hold. And so when anxiety would come up those were the tools. We use different tools like segmenting really being mindful, and using energy healing techniques.

We did an inner child meditation where she got a lot of a-has on what it was that was creating her fear. You know, it was pivotal, the inner child meditation. And I'll talk about that later, but the inner child meditation work that we did together really. She unearthed these hidden beliefs about her life that kept her stuck in the dark. 

Fear kept her from moving forward.  So after six weeks of working together and really implementing these tools, practicing every day because we were constantly in contact when I did an intensive with a client, we're constantly in contact. We, stay in contact via email.

We have an app that we use as well as two sessions per week through the six weeks. And we connect in those moments.  So through constant contact, whenever she needed help, we helped her to apply a tool. And then in time, she started doing it on her own. She didn't even need me anymore because she was really implementing the tools that she needed to and found herself, even though it was work, found herself moving through the energy of fear.

And one of the greatest. Things that I heard from her was that you know, I don't even have any fear for going on this plane anymore,  she said it's two weeks. There is the nervous jitters I do have the nervousness, but I don't feel the intense fear. By now I would be sweating bullets every day and really fearful of what was gonna come  But she shifted out of that because she focused instead on trust  Trust and safety.

Her biggest issue was fear. So by those six weeks, she no longer had a fear of flying.  And to this day, she doesn't have a fear of flying. 

We are working together for another six weeks because of the fact that she has the tools, but now she wants to just have clarity sessions to continue the work and make sure that even as stuff comes up, she wants to be able to work with me and have that connection with me.  So, the intensive is over, but the clarity sessions are there and we do the clarity sessions to kind of add on to the intensive work that we did. 

So she has clarity sessions once a week with me where we get together. We talk about the tools she's using. We talk about any new things that have come up for her and,  new goals for herself.  So if this is something that you're interested in, please go ahead, and hit the link to my stand store in the description of this episode.

You can find the different services that I offer. If there is a specific thing such as generalized anxiety disorder that you want to, you know, get rid of or fear of flying or anything like that. , health anxiety, and stuff like that. We can work together intensely for six weeks in my intensive, just like I did with her in order to overcome it. 

Now, did she need the clarity sessions? No, she has so many tools that if she just continues to use the tools, eventually she will heal her anxiety, but she knew that she needed that extra help. So she keeps with the clarity sessions. Do you need a clarity session? Or do you need the intensive? The clarity sessions are really just one tool.

Sessions there, they create a plan for you and we can do clarity sessions. If you would prefer not to do the intensive, you know,  so go ahead and go to the Stan Store There's an actual link of what services for me. You can go through that. If you have questions, you can reach out Martita@MartitaRobinson.com  to get more info.  Just let me know you have questions on the intensive and we can talk. All right. I love you. I hope this has helped in some way. Go off and meditate, girl. Go off and meditate. , be the best mama you can be.  Do the challenging work of pulling away and relaxing.

All right. Talk soon.  

 Episode 4 – The Mystical Investigator: Natural Healing for Anxiety 

In this episode of The Mystical Investigator, we dive deeper into fear and another method of overcoming fear. 

Episode Highlights

• The Energy of Fear
• Ho'oponopono-a method to heal fear
• How to apply it for healing

Transcript

Welcome, welcome. My name is Martita Robinson, and this is The Mystical Investigator. Today We're going to dive deeper into healing. Fear. Fear is one of the most powerful emotions. That can come up. It's very debilitating at times. And the energy of fear is quite scary.  Because it's so scary because it disconnects us so profoundly from our stillness, from our presence.  It's really important to tackle it, as soon as it comes in.  The longer you sit and fear the harder it is to get out of it.  Now I've discovered through my own path to healing my anxiety Many different tools and techniques to overcoming these feelings and not just overcoming them, but healing them in the moment.  For us as women, we have these hormonal surges and changes during the month, and this can make fear even more debilitating at times because the hormones are already going rampant and different things are happening in our bodies. 

And for whatever reason, fear comes up.  Even stronger. Just like every other emotion, we tend to feel things very. She strongly and it feels very real.  Fear feels real. And so when we connect to these thoughts that can. Move us into fear. It's very.  Uncomfortable.  So today we're going to talk about an energy-healing technique that I use to transmute the fear. And heal it.

Today's technique is called hole upon a Pono.  It's a traditional Hawaiian practice that involves forgiveness, reconciliation and healing.  The word translates to make right.

It's a process of bringing harmony to your life, the people in your life, and yourself. The world. Emotions. 

I learned about Ho'oponopono through Dr. Joe Vitale. And he talks a lot about different Spiritual paths. So if you haven't heard of him, look them up. Dr. Joe Vitale.  He also has some Different webinars on Ho'oponopono. So I came across him quite a few years ago. Maybe seven years ago or so, while I was in the process of healing, my anxiety, and I discovered that,  I was able to transmute the energy of fear. Very easily Ho'oponopono is basically three words that you keep repeating over and over and over again.

It's a mantra.  And mantras are just words that you repeat over and over again. And it connects to a certain energy. Depending on what the words are that you're saying. So in this case, Ho'oponopono is I'm sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you. And you repeat that over and over and over again. 

If you use the mantra on something that you're experiencing in your life that you want to heal, or you want to move out of your life in some way, like heal it, move it through.  Change it. , you're using the words basically because you're telling yourself, I'm sorry, please forgive me. 

Thank you. I love you. You're healing the energy. With acceptance. Okay. It's basically the flow.  And whenever you're triggered with something. And you use these words. Your. Flowing through the trigger.  And I've talked about this before.  When we have issues in our lives, emotional issues, things we don't want. There are blocks. There are blocks the healing. Of it. Or moving forward into shifting into something that you prefer in your life. Let me give you an example and it might be clearer. So a friend of mine and I decided to use Ho'oponopono as an experiment in our lives to see What it can do because when I watched the webinar with Joe Vitale. There's so much testimonial about applying this , to your life and healing and different things that people have wanted.  Coming to them.  So me and a friend. Use this through. Our own lives.  For a month.

And basically, I would just say the mantra all day long, constantly on different things.  And not even just on different things. I was just saying the mantra all day long.  Now my husband was a smoker. My husband was a smoker for the 14 years that we've been married.  And I. Never. Like that, because my mother was a smoker. She died early on in my life. , I just feel like smoking is just not a good thing. I do believe smoking a moderation is okay. I'm not going to throw shade at people who do smoke, everything is okay. My belief system is that it's all good. And, you know, follow yourself. 

Do what's good for you? But, when it came to smoking, my husband. Was a habitual smoker. He smoked. Every day and I just never liked it. It's just not something I wanted in my life. I didn't want it to be a part of my kids' lives. It was just something that I didn't want.  I've wanted him to quit forever since we met. 

I never badgered him to do it maybe in the beginning a little bit, but I learned that.  Trying to push someone to do something is not the answer. Just like.  Flowing with your own emotions is necessary. You have to flow with life and flow with others. And trying to place my own belief system on him is not going to change things. 

There's a lack of acceptance there. If I'm trying to push him to do something, I'm not accepting him as he is.  So I just let it be. And I knew at one point he would quit.  But it just never happened. 14 years later, he was still smoking. So after this month of doing hope on a Pono, He quit. 

He quit. And I really do attribute that to healing and clearing my own energy.

This is a really spiritual practice. It's kind of a miracle worker.  Use it in your own life and I'm going to teach you how I used it for anxiety here.  So the mantra again is I'm sorry, please. Forgive me. Thank you. I love you.  When you are faced with fear you don't even need to use all of the mantras. All you need to use is I love you.  And you will find that that fear melts away. 

It melts away. I love you. I love you.  I love you.

You can even use, I'm sorry, please. Forgive me. I love you. I love you.  You can use the whole mantra if you want. But basically, I love you is powerful enough.  To dissipate the fear.

Try this in your life. I promise you, you will see a difference.  It moves you from this feeling of disconnection from Source.

Into pure connection because love is who you are. And when you say I love you. You are tuning back. And to the energy of yourself.  And it removes you from the energy of fear by transmuting the fear back into love.

So use this as a tool for yourself. I use it on everything. You don't even need to just use it for fear. You can use it for anger. You can use it. , with any type of upset, but I'm sorry, please. Forgive me. Thank you. I love you. That's the whole Pono Pono mantra.  Try this. Let me know if it works for you. 

I'm on different social sites. I've left the sites in the description.  Let me know how this works for you. When I started applying this towards my fear and I still do by the way, because of course hormones. You know, once in a while, it comes into real strong, like recently for whatever reason. Well,  The thing is I had a baby last year and, my beautiful baby boy just turned one and I just got my period back. I breastfeed him. 

So I didn't have my period for the whole year.  And it just recently came back a couple months ago. And man, after not having my period for almost two years during pregnancy, and then during breastfeeding, getting it back has been hellacious. It's like, wow. You forget About the feelings and everything that is involved with having your period when you haven't had it for a while. So it's been really strong, like, you know, the week before has been very, very powerful. In. Feeling these uncomfortable feelings and fear is one of the things that I've experienced lately.  , because of my period.  So I used it. 

I used it just the other day. I love you. I'm sorry, please. Forgive me. Thank you. And I'll just use, I love you. I love you. I love you. Sometimes I'll answer, change it and I'll use, you know, the whole mantra, but most of the time, it's just, I love you. I love you and it'll just pull me up quickly.   So apply this, and use this practice.  and let me know how it goes.  I love you. We'll talk soon. 

A Mystical Mama/s Guide to Flow

 Episode 2- A Mystical Mamas Guide to Flow 

In this episode of The Mystical Investigator, we dive into the Flow 

Episode Highlights

• Understanding the Flow
• Your spirit and Flow
• The Three Part Process

Transcript

Hello. Welcome. Welcome. My name is Martita Robinson, and this is the Mystical Investigator.  Thank you for joining me today, as we talk about different ways to flow.   How to allow your spiritual essence to be all that it is without blocking it with, our own little pushback.  Our negative thinking.  Feeling uncomfortable and not allowing it to be there. And lack of acceptance. 

Today, we're going to talk about different ways that you can flow.  How you can move into a. More aligned life, where you're just allowing your emotions to be so that you can heal your anxiety.  So that you can be happy and you can live your best life. 

Now when I began.  Learning about my emotions and learning how to flow. I  already had one of the biggest tools that I recommend.  And practicing in order to stay in the flow.  And that was meditation.  Meditation was something that I started when I was in my undergrad.   Had found a cassette. 

At a garage sale, I guess we're talking vintage stuff here.  

I was at the garage sale with my friends. I had been just hanging out with her. We were just chilling and. It was the psychic. I don't know if you've ever heard of Sylvia brown, but she passed away a while ago. She was this psychic and.  Even at the time, I didn't really know her. 

I hadn't really read her books. 

I hadn't. Done any research on her, but I have seen this. Tape where she talked about how. You could feel your spirit. That stuck out to me because. I grew up with the Bible and the Bible talks about your spirit quite a bit.   

I no longer have any type of religion. I'm more of a spiritual. Woman.  More of a mystic. I like to be involved in lots of different things to make me feel connected to the Source in God.  But at the time, it just stuck out to me. So I listened to it and she basically. Taught me how to relax. That's what the tape was on. 

And I listened to it every day. I practice it every day was my first meditation.  And it taught me that I didn't have to sit in my emotions. I could relax out of them. 

 And this is what flow is. This is all flow is flow is allowing you to be you.  Without pushing back. So even when we have emotions and I talk about this in the first episode of How to heal your anxiety, if you haven't listened to that, go back to that. Listen to the foundation.  And. 

Even when we have emotions, we're still aligned. 

Emotions are a natural part of who you are.  It's a natural part. That does not disconnect you from a source that does not disconnect you from who you are.  You're still a source. As you feel emotions, what disconnects you from the source?  Is when you stop the flow of your emotions.  Because living a human life.  Energetically you are energy. 

You are spirit in this physical form. Living a human life requires being able to feel experiences. that's the whole point of being human.  You know, in a spiritual sense, we're just spirits. We're not going to feel anything.  

It's just knowing and being, and, you know, just energy. So being physical, you get to feel life.  And experienced life at a very experiential level, including all of your senses.  So when you feel emotions, there's nothing wrong with having emotions. Emotions are the most natural part of you.  What is wrong and what is skewed is if you push back against them and do not allow them to be.  

And as I talked about in that last episode, the flow is a three-part process.  The flow. When it comes to your emotion, so flow and the flow, I like to call the three-part emotional process, the flow theory, right? It's all about allowing yourself to feel the experience, to accept the experience, and then to let it go, because there's no point. Or use it and you holding onto it. 

The most we can do is learn from experiences. 

  But.   Pushing back against it keeps it. In our experience at the moment. And every time you push back against it, you just bring up that past experience and you let it be in your present. There's no good to that.  There's no good too Fighting. The feeling. Fighting the reason. Fighting. Forgiveness. There's no point to any of that. So meditation teaches you how to relax out of the fight. 

You go away from the world. You sit. 

You can either sit with a guided meditation. Or you Sit still with the disquiet. There are so many different meditations.   Well, you just observe.  

You can chant. 

Oh, two.   And I'll get deeper into all these different ways and future episodes, but meditation is nothing more than allowing yourself to flow and teaching yourself what your body feels like in a relaxed state.  Because when you pull yourself away from the world, you allow the emotions to come up.  Then you're focused on presence. 

You're focused on flow.  You're not. In the mix of the world.  Bumping up against. All that life is giving you at the moment, whether it be work or the kids.  Spending time with your partner.   

Even being in the experience of.  

Whatever. Has brought about the emotion in the first place. 

You want to be able to sit. 

And observe just simply observe without being in the middle of the world. And you do this daily.  And when I started this, I started with 15 to 20 minutes. 

And that was how I gained mastery over myself, over my blocks, over pushing against life.  Because I actually sat through the cycle of it now.  You can start off at five minutes. I like to call that a reset. It's like you sit for five minutes and you're resetting. Whatever's happening, if you're going to meditate, I say 15 to 20 minutes a day is going to teach you about yourself.  

It's going to teach you what it feels like to feel.  It's going to teach you what it feels like to flow.  your only goal during that meditation should be to relax. In the beginning, a beginner's meditation should be taught. You how to relax.  Okay.  Relaxing is something that you can learn and use in daily living.  Because then once you learn how to relax, you, you, you learn how to meditate. 

Then you can Process your emotions within the moment.  You allow that flow to happen every time you're feeling something. 

And of course, this takes daily practice. You have to practice every day, but this is the tool. God has given you what the universe has given you, this is the biggest.  A tool that you could ever have. And when I'm teaching my clients.  It's like every client I have, this is, this is the basis. This is the foundation. for Whatever. Healing techniques.  Or whatever issue that they have. 

So I'm a spiritual therapist. I. Help my clients overcome hard emotions heal traumas and heal the past. 

And meditation is. The foundation for all of it.  

So, not only does meditation teach you how to flow, but it also teaches you how to be present. It teaches you how to be still.  In your life stop moving. So many of us are constantly on the go you know, as parents.  As moms.  We're out here constantly serving our children. And helping our children and supporting our little adults. 

Right. We're raising adults in these little.  Beautiful angels in our lives.  And we're always on the go. There's never a moment of sitting back, most of the time it's just service.  And when we're in the middle of that, we tend to lose ourselves. We tend to lose the feeling of.  Alignment to us, right. 

To self, to sacred self. To spirit. 

And it can feel chaotic if it can make life feel chaotic like it's just, we're on this. Fast. Roller coaster or not even a rollercoaster, like, what was called the devil's hole.  

You know that spinny thing you go inside and it's a ride at.  And you lay against the wall and it spins fast and you're like stuck, you know? 

Or rollercoaster where the, one of the wooden roller coasters where you're going up and down and it's like Jostling you.  

You don't feel very good in life when you're not connected and aligned, you feel.  You feel chaotic, you feel crazy. 

You have to be able to Be present to enjoy life, to fully enjoy life.  Presence is key and meditation teaches you how to be present. It teaches you how to align with yourself and become one with yourself, to not just be in the body and the mind, but to sit in the spirit because in the spirit is this beautiful. Wonderful.  Still state.   It's the spa. 

Like, you know, when you go to a spa.  And the lights are dim and the sense and the aromas are just so calming and soothing.   The whole vibe is just.  Calm and still, and you just feel so calm when you're out in nature.  And you're under a tree and it's just you, or it's even if it is you and the kids, like you're just sitting in nature and you have a minute while they're playing to just take it all in and soak it all in.  Right. 

Or maybe when you're.  Watching your children enjoy themselves. There's this still moment there when you're doing something that you really enjoy. There's this very present, still moment.  And that that presence is always there. And you have the capability of experiencing life. All the time like that.  And this glorious bliss of enjoyment, because every moment that you're in feels so good. 

 Even the chaos of your children. You know,  

Playing very loudly.  Running around making noises.  Right.  That's that stillness within you because that's God's force within you and God always loves.  He loves every moment. It loves, she loves whatever you want to call it. It loves every moment. 

And because that is N you you're feeling that.  That's you that you're feeling it, you're feeling the bliss. You're feeling the love and appreciation for the world in your presence, but that requires getting out of your mind.  And that requires getting out of your body and settling into that energetic level of you.  Which you only learn with meditation. 

Meditation is how you learn, how to do that. You learn to relax, you learn to let go. Then you can be present in your day-to-day. Then you can move away from the chaos and into aligning with yourself, really feeling still.  Really moving out of the body, really moving out of the mind.  And you still yourself, you stop going from, go, go, go, go, go to, let me take my time. 

Let me be here with my kids while they're eating.  Let me enjoy them.   Let me be here in this conversation that my baby is trying to have with me. 

Great, regardless of the age of the baby, right? It could be a. Talkative 14-year-old or a.  

Talkative. Four-year-old.  

Gab. I have these ducks. I live near a park, so I have these ducks that fly over and they're allowed, they just pass by. You may have, may have been caught on the audio, but.   That feeling of like, wow, how beautiful is this morning? Hearing those docs. 

It lights me up.  

The simplest things will light you up when you are connected to soul.  And sacred self.   Again,  meditation is required. You need to be able to learn what that feels like to settle into yourself, to be able to be aligned. With you. 

And that requires relaxing. So your first meditation should be a relaxation, meditation. Find something. That's going to teach you how to relax. 

For me, it was that first audio.  I listened to that taught me to relax.   And then from there, I practiced on my own.  Through many different meditations. I learned what works for relaxation and now I teach it to my clients. I use the same meditation.  With my clients. 

They all learn the same way. 

And it's the best way to learn. You. Start from your toes. You move up to your head, and you relax. Your body.  Then you move into relaxing the mind and observing and watching. Your breath and listening to the sounds in the room and it's, and it's a process that really teaches you all the facets of your being and how to let go. 

So I know you're not my client per se, but I do offer meditation.  It is called a radical relaxation kit. It's a kit. It has meditation. It also has a five-minute reset. I kind of touched on that earlier where you, you can do five minutes of meditation, but I wouldn't.  Put your all into that, like five minutes, meditation is just a reset. 

It's like you're feeling really hard emotions. You sit for five minutes to relax. And then that hard emotional pass. 

But meditation is about learning what it feels like to be present and sitting. So it should be 15 to 20 minutes.  So I have this kit it's available at my Stan store. I'll leave the link in the show notes, 

it's inexpensive. It's a great meditation practice every single day. It also has instructions on meditating and like all my best tips. That I know of to really make meditation a daily practice for you. So check it out.  Alright. I love you.  If you have any questions you can go ahead and email me martita@martitarobinson.com. 

Talk soon. 

How to Overcome Fear for Moms With Anxiety (Part 1)

Episode 3 – The Mystical Investigator: How to Overcome Fear for Moms with Anxiety

In this episode of The Mystical Investigator, we dive into fear and how to overcome it. 

Episode Highlights

• Understanding fear
• Applying the Flow
• Meditation to overcome fear

Transcript

Hey, mama. It's Martita, The Mystical Investigator.  Today. I want to investigate fear.  Fear is such a strong emotion. And it happens so much when it comes to mothers, right? Anxious, moms, moms who experience anxiety, it's important that you understand fear so that you're able to overcome it quickly. 

If you don't understand it, you're going to push against it and push it down and stifle it. And we don't want to do that. Right? We want to flow. If you haven't heard about the Flow, you can go to episode one of the podcast. This is the foundation of Healing your anxiety and A must If you're ready to move forward.

To overcome fear, you have to understand it and not just understand it, but even deeper, understand who you are. First things first, you are spirit. You are source. You are God energy.  Constantly flowing in a state of love. Constantly in a state of peace. 

Emotions and your mind pull you out of this knowing.  So thoughts and emotions are going on. And Because there's so much going on, the recognition of your God source doesn't happen so easily. Uh, unless you're actually investigating yourself and learning about yourself. So I really want you to understand that this is who you are. And begin to notice that. As you investigate. Your own emotions.  So fear. Is nothing more than an emotion.  As you are still in your God's source energy, this, beautiful piece that you are, an emotion comes up.  In this case, fear.  And it's a very strong emotion. 

Fear is. very, very strong. It's very uncomfortable. It's not pleasant in any way.  

Our first tendency, when it comes to fear is to run from it.  It's to try to push against it. To get away from it as quickly as we can.  But this is not the path. To overcome that fear or to allow that fear to move through you quickly. This is not the path to healing. 

All this does is exacerbated. It keeps it moving through you. It either moves it into your emotional body or your emotional cup as I've called it in the flow process. That space in you.  Also known as your subconscious that holds these different feelings. And experiences until you're ready to allow it to flow.

The first thing I want you to do is to just remember who you are. You are this beautiful spiritual source. Second, understand fear is an emotion. And just like any other emotion. If you allow it to flow, it will move past quickly. Focusing on it is going to keep it stuck in your energy field, in the God's source that you are.  So you want to be able to be present. Or still in your God source, anchored into your spiritual energy. So that emotional energy can move.  Okay. Remember. Emotions need to move through.  They have a three-part process of experience. 

Accept and let go. All emotions flow and fear is, no different. Fear just wants to move. 

So when it comes to fear, you want to allow yourself to settle into your spirit so that the energy can move.  Okay. So understanding those two things is of utmost importance. Number one, you are God's source. You are love energy. You are peace. Number two fear is nothing more than 

an emotion. And if you allow yourself to settle into your presence,  Settle into your spiritual energy. Settle into you. 

The fear we'll move through quickly.

So recognize what you are, who you are. The energy that you have. are.   Moving into stillness should be your first priority when you're experiencing fear.   How do we move into our stillness? We move into our body. 

You want to get out of your mind. Your mind is what's keeping you in the cycle of fear. You start thinking about different things, which keeps the fear going.  Always move out of your mind when it comes to fear, fear is a thinking concept. 

Yes. There is the feeling, the challenging experience of fear. But again, fear will move through you quickly. If you allow it, the brain tends to stop it. The brain keeps it going. The brain keeps these different experiences moving along within your energetic center. Okay. So the way to get out of that is to move back into the body. Anchoring yourself into your body. Into where your stillness is. 

Stillness does not reside in thinking, thinking is not a part of your God source thinking is a tool that God's source uses to communicate at times, and to give you ideas and inspiration, but it is not what God is. It's not who you are.  

In order to overcome fear, you have to get out of the thinking. Mind. Okay. And you do that by moving into the body.  Now the easiest way to move into your body. The quickest way to move into your body is through your breath.

Your breath anchors you into your stillness. So if you focus on your breathing,  Then you're going to anchor into your stillness. And the fear will move. It'll move quickly.

There's no reality to fear. Fear is just an energy. Remember that it doesn't mean you have a fear it's going to come true we get really tied into fear because it feels so real. Our fear feels real.

So to move out of that feeling.  Understanding that its energy is what you need to do. It's not real it's energy and it moves.  So move into presence and presence is what you are. You are stillness. You are. Piece you are presence.  The way to move into presence again is to focus on your breath. Your breath is your anchor. Let your breath anchor you. Let your breath anchor. 

You breathe in.  

Breathe out.  

And you notice as you breathe that you can't think.

Breathing disconnects you from the fear.  And it connects you instead until your breath and into you, into your stillness and into your presence.  Anchoring you down, all right?

So the next time that you feel scared.  You feel that fear has come in.  Comes in through a thought.  First, you have a thought, then the feeling of fear comes in.  Go back to your stillness. Breathe in. Breathe out. Breathe in, breathe out.  

Now, if you're not used to settling into your stillness, into your presence. This can be challenging. It can also be challenging tides identify when you do feel. Scared when you do have that thought right away because you want to catch it right away. You don't want to dwell on fear.  And swelling, unfair exacerbates it.  It continues it and it makes it move more and more.  It stops it from flowing dwelling on fear, allowing yourself to think about the thing that the fear is bringing up.  Exacerbates it, you don't want to do that. You want to move into the body as soon as fear comes in. As soon as that thought comes in. Move into the body. Anchor yourself. And especially, with us, there are hormones that keep us stuck in that fear. 

You know, we get anxiety or these feelings of fear during certain hormone changes.  And that's another thing that can really add to this whole thing. Is the idea that hormones can make it stick more, but if you catch it right away, right away, as soon as you have a thought.  And you move into the feeling of fear. Breathe. Anchor into your breath. 

Now the reason that I'm able to identify that my thoughts have moved into fear so quickly is because I meditate. I'm a meditator. Meditation teaches you to move into your body and relax. It teaches you what it feels like to be still. It teaches you what it feels like to be present. It also teaches you what it feels like to let the energy move.

Meditation is what teaches you that.  

If you're interested in meditating, go to the link in my bio. I'll put it in the show notes, I have a very inexpensive meditation kit.  The kit teaches you everything you need to know about meditation helps you create your spot, and talks about roadblocks and ways that you can overcome them. It's a great kit. And it will teach you how to meditate and it comes with meditation.  Practice.  

Or just go to YouTube.  Find a meditation that you like and stick to it.  Every day. Do it.  People ask me how long. I say 15 to 20 minutes a day.

When I first started meditating, I meditated twice a day because I loved it. Learning how to get into me, how to feel presence. That felt really good to me. And it felt very spiritual. And so I wanted to do it as much as I could. 

But once a day is all you need.  All right. If you have any questions, reach out to Martina and Martina Robinson. I'd love to hear them talk soon.